You can be right or you can be happy, but sometimes you can't be both. That's what one of my favorite professors, John Strong, liked to say. I think about that statement a lot. I usually think about it when I am in a fight.
Like yesterday. Bryan and I were having a lovers' quarrel. I know I was right. He was just not seeing things from my point of view. It was so frustrating.
I was in the middle of pondering how to make him treat me the way I wanted him to treat me when it hit me. You can be right or you can be happy. That was followed immediately by another horrible thought, "You can't change him," and then an even more devastating thought came right on the heels of that one, "You can only change you."
Laaaaa (heavenly musical chords followed by bright lights breaking through the heavens). I can change me! I have total power and control over that. That feels good.
